Can You Really Trust A Story?

How did you make your last decision to buy
something?

Who did you ask for advice or recommendations?

When I think about the last few times I made a
buying decision (booking tickets for our vacation
for example) I definitely asked for other
opinions. I did some research on-line, I asked
friends and family and then I went ahead and found
the best deal and booked the flights.

In truth, I was listening to other people’s
stories.

And we do this all the time.

It’s inconceivable to go ahead and spend money
(especially large amounts!) without first checking
out some other stories about the item we are
looking to buy.

So, how do we know that we can trust the story?

Last week my son (he’s 8!) told a great story. He
told his best friend’s mother that we were moving
to America; that we had decided to go and live
there for at least two years.

Later she said to me,”how wonderful, how
exciting; how brave of you to relocate the whole
family and take such a huge step…and to try
America, how fantastic!”

I thought she was being a little dramatic. I mean
a two week vacation in the U.S. does not exactly
equate to such a huge step, to such wonder and
bravery!

I looked at her strangely and after a few minutes
of this kind of back and forth bantering, we
realized that there was some kind of
misunderstanding.

Then she told me what my son had told her and we
started laughing!

My son and I had a little conversation about the
difference between embellishment, imagination and
truth!

And it got me thinking – how do you really trust a
story?

We have fast food joints setting up a salad bar
and marketing themselves as the healthy food
option.

And every second ‘guru’ on-line is promising
amazing fame and fortune in a matter of days and
just a few clicks.

So what story do we trust?

Well, this might sound radical. It may sound a bit
strange. But it works.

If you really listen to the story, you know.

Authenticity is recognizable a mile away. You
can’t miss it if you’re really listening, if
you’re really watching.

When a person tells a story from the heart, you
can feel it. The energy is completely different
and the message penetrates in a physical way. You
get that gut feeling and it sounds something like
a sigh.

You immediately get the feeling and the thought
appears that tells you “now this I can trust.”

Try it. Next time someone tells you a story, pay
attention to how you feel, to your energy and your
thoughts. You’ll know if it’s true. You’ll know
if you can trust the story.

So, you might be wondering about how this works
with creative 8 year olds?! Well, the truth is, I
think he actually believed it when he told it!
He’s so excited about our upcoming vacation and
all that we plan to do there, it feels to him like
we’ll be away for years! Or perhaps it was
wishful thinking!

I’d love to hear more about the stories you can
and can’t trust…
Comment below!

Best wishes and best stories
Lisa

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4 comments on “Can You Really Trust A Story?

  1. Like most people, I love stories. For a while I owned a small gift shop that sold an array of pretty home decorator items such as beaded lamps, retro teddy bears, embroidered linens, scented candles, silverware, pure essential oils, wall prints, rugs, books, candelabras, beautiful silk flowers and fanciful ironware. Customers were met with delicious fragrances and assorted music from the 40s, film soundtracks and Gregorian chanting monks. There was a sense of discovery and delight.

    My shop attracted lots of travellers who were passing through town. They would stop off and share little snippets of their lives. Stories. Some stories made me laugh so hard I would cry and sometimes the stories were so heartfelt and sad that I felt a piece of my heart would break.

    The most enjoyable aspect about my day wasn’t about making sales or how much money I made, it was about the people I met and the stories they told. Stories enrich our lives, give us hope, broaden our perspective, open our minds, bring us to our knees and lift us up to new heights. They stretch our emotions to the depths of despair and heartbreak and take us to the extremes of pure joy and bliss.

    That’s why I love stories. I love the emotional roller coaster ride. I love having my mind stretched. I love the sense that my life is richer for having taken the time to hear or read a story. I love how we can change our own story any time of the day. Your son is a beautiful example of this, Lisa.

    Thank you for taking the time to tell your stories so that our lives are enriched. Thank you for the work you do. Thank you for touching my heart.

    • thanks Lily, your shop sounds magical! And I love the idea that above all you were a story collector! Best wishes, Lisa

  2. I actually got so involved writing my comment that I forgot to mention the way I make a buying decision. A few months ago I invested in an online program with a person I’d never even heard of before. I found her…somewhere, listened to a teleseminar and decided that I needed what she was teaching. It just felt like the right thing to do. The 90-day program finished last week and I’m so glad I trusted my gut and signed up. I loved it!

    Sometimes the best thing to do is just go with your heart. That’s usually what I do. Trust is certainly a prerequisite because you have to trust in yourself enough to know that you are making the best choice. Decisions change lives and when we have the courage to make decisions and follow through our story has a new ending.

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