You know those days when you wonder why on
earth you are still doing this job, this
work, this relationship, this blog.
The days when you think, who’s out there,
who cares. What difference does it make.
The days when you forget the reason, you
forget your story, you forget your vision,
you forget your brilliance.
And then there are the days when everything
is crystal clear. When you just shine.
When your purpose, actions and outstanding
results are all perfectly aligned.
I got to thinking about the ‘when’ and ‘how’
and ‘what ifs’ about these two opposite states.
And then this week I was given a gift from
a super-bright student, a reminder of a wonderful
I was reminded of the Cherokee Legend called
“Grandfather Tells” which is also known as
“The Wolves Within”.
This is the story.
An old Grandfather said to his grandson, who came
to him with anger at a friend who had done him an
injustice, “Let me tell you a story.
I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those
that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what
But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your
enemy. It is like taking poison and wishing your
enemy would die. I have struggled with these
feelings many times.” He continued, “It is as if
there are two wolves inside me. One is good and
does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around
him, and does not take offense when no offense was
intended. He will only fight when it is right to
do so, and in the right way.
But the other wolf, ah! He is full of anger. The
littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper.
He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason.
He cannot think because his anger and hate are so
great. It is helpless anger,for his anger will
Sometimes, it is hard to live with these two
wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate
The boy looked intently into his Grandfather’s
eyes and asked, “Which one wins, Grandfather?”
The Grandfather smiled and quietly said, “The one
Which of the wolves do you feed?
It is the wolf of exhaustion, self-doubt and disbelief.
Or is it the wolf of optimism, energy and generosity?
Maybe if we figured out HOW we feed our bright,
smart, harmonious wolf then we could do it more often.
I’ll start. I fed mine at the beach this week,
running with the kids, watching the sun set and
allowing myself be looked after by everyone else
when I was sick.
How do you feed yours?
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Best wishes and best stories!