Who are you attracting into your life and your business?
Have you thought about it?
How and why are these people showing up?
I was sitting in a sparsely populated lecture
hall, waiting for the professor to arrive. I
liked getting there early, choosing to sit right
in the middle, about 4 rows back from the front.
A woman arrived just after me and shuffled in
carrying lots of heavy-looking books in her arms.
She sat 3 seats away from me in the row in front.
She put her books down, turned to me and said
“Good morning!” and smiled broadly.
I had noticed her before, paid attention to the
smart comments she gave in class and the quick wit
that I loved and recognized. In that moment, I
knew what I had to do.
“We should be friends,” I said “hi, I’m Lisa and
I’d love to invite you to a party I’m having next
week, you will come, won’t you?”
Over 20 years later, we are still the best of
This is not the only time I’ve done this, followed
my curiosity or my heart, my passion or my desire
in order to connect with people in the moment.
Sometimes it works wonderfully, sometimes less so!
When you meet someone new, often you get an
instant feeling, good or bad.
Do you act on it?
There is a part of us all that sometimes just
wants to be the little child. We want to go up
to that cool person, the popular one, or the
pretty one, or the smart one and simply say “will you be my friend?”
Why don’t we do it?
We feel a really strong connection and then we run
What’s that about?
Well, there’s always:
“What if they say no?”
“What if they’re really mean underneath the nice
“What if I’m wrong and I get hurt?”
“How can I know for sure that they want to be
The truth is we can’t know for sure. But isn’t it
worth the try?
When we stop ourselves reaching out and instead
act based on our fears of what might happen (or
might not), we are losing touch with that magic
energy that simply connects like with like.
We are drifting from our crystal clear
understanding of what is good for us and what we
know to be true.
Yes, you’re right, sometimes we get it wrong.
Sometimes we’re seduced by something that is not
what it seems. But more often, we are too scared
to reach out and touch what we are clearly meant
to connect with.
The times that I have acted on this impulse and
reached out to connect has created some of the
most meaningful relationships in my life and in my
When you are clear about your desires, intentions
and who you are, when you know your story, it’s
easy to connect in a meaningful way.
When you show interest in others, you become the
most interesting person in the world.
When you show curiosity and generosity, you
receive wonderful gifts.
When you live in gratitude, you live in abundance.
Go on, act on that impulse, reach out, tell your
story and listen to theirs.
I’d love to hear about how this worked for you in
Or the funny stories of how it didn’t!
Leave a comment here!
Best wishes and best stories